Unbelievable Media.

Before I start the stories of other people, I wanted to talk about something that is currently in the news.  Jenelle Evans from the MTV hit show “Teen Mom 2” was recorded as she punched a girl repeatedly and pinned her to the ground.  While watching the video, you can hear all of Jenelle’s friends encouraging her as she beats this girl.  This is a girl that kids watch on TV probably every week on this show, and now this video is all over the internet to see, yet it is okay.

This is so extremely frustrating to me.  How can people expect children not to resort to violence and how can we tell them it is wrong when it is so highlighted within the media.  Not just this video either.  You can go on YouTube or any other video site and see people having a brawl and many times people are standing around and watching. Bullies do not come by themselves.  They will always have a crowd behind them.  All it takes is that crowd to go away, or for one person to jump in and stop what is going on or to get help and all of the power of that bully goes away.  But, so many people are so worried about themselves that they don’t think about that, all they think is that if they try stopping it, then they are the next target.  WAKE UP! If you don’t stop it and you think someone else will, nothing will ever change!  Those people who are beating the hell out of someone will never stop because they know that they have so much power over everyone.

Think about something. These kids or teenagers being beat up could be someone’s child, grandchild, niece/nephew, mother/father, cousin, etc.  Now, think about this, all of you out there who think this is entertainment, if it was your child, or any other family member, how funny would it be then?

Quote: A lot of people are afraid to tell the truth, to say no. That's where toughness comes into play. Toughness is not being a bully. It's having backbone. ---Robert Kiyosaki

My Story.

Growing up I was constantly the target of people’s cruel words and acts.  Middle School was probably the worst time of my life.  I was shy, had some friends, but not a solid group, and most of the time got along with the teachers better than with my peers. I had my lunch stolen from me for a month before I finally broke down at home and told my parents what was happening.  Obviously it got taken care of, but I probably can’t even count the amount of times I was in and out of the guidance counselor’s office for the next couple years. I will always remember the group of girls that made my life a living hell those 4 years. I also had an incident where two boys came up to me after school, one held me and the other one punched me in the stomach.

With the exception of that incident I was never physically hurt, but it is often said that words can be a lot more hurtful than a punch in the face.  At least to me they were.  I got blamed for things I never did or participated in, I got my personal belongings destroyed, and my pride went out the window.  I used to have a “stomach ache” almost every day in gym when the one girl was in my class because I was so terrified that if I participated that she would make comments about me.  Eventually those girls got over themselves and I got a lot of help from teachers and my family.  But, then there was high school.

High school is the ultimate test of how strong you can really be and how far you can be pushed.  Because of everything that happened in middle school, I was extremely self-conscious and was always beating myself up about how I looked and how “fat” I thought I was.  I was always just looking for someone that would care a little bit about me.  I had friends, I had best friends, some of which I am still really close with, and of course I had boyfriends.  The boyfriends cheated, or got what they wanted and then left.  The friends talked behind my back, and ganged up with other people and I would sit by myself at lunch for weeks at a time.

After all of this, I came to the conclusion that girls are vicious beings and most guys are pigs.  High school really gave me a chance to see people’s true colors and who my real friends are.  At this point in my life, I put on a front as if I don’t care what people think, but really I do but I am so numb to it by now, only a really big thing will bring out all of the emotions I hide inside.  But, even with those occasional breakdowns, I now have a boyfriend who loves me no matter what and I have friends that are always there when I need them. Bullying can be extremely traumatizing for people.  For me, I stuck it out, and I realized who my true friends were and who I couldn’t trust.  Others can’t handle the stress of it.

 

For my next couple of blogs I will be sharing other people’s stories of when they were bullied and I am hoping people can comment on them about their feelings about it as well as how you may have dealt with a situation like the ones shared.  I am really hoping people will read this and we can start eliminating, little by little, the nasty words and acts that people do and say towards each other.

No one is perfect.

So I am planning out a bullying post that has people's stories about when they have been bullied coming up sometime this week.. But I just wanted to make a post to say that I am not perfect.
I had someone message me on Facebook how was it possible that I was against bullying when me and my cheerleading squad bullied her throughout high school.
Let me make something clear.  I am not perfect.  And I explained to her that I am truly sorry if she felt as if she was being bullied but I really do not remember any vicious acts that we did to her.  I am doing a bullying blog with people's stories, so they can let it out, and let people see what they have gone through. Although I will not be using names, those people who told me their stories know who they are and I am here to basically tell their stories and to help people who have been bullied and have not gotten over what they have gone through, or for people who are currently being bullied.
So once again, not only to this girl but to anyone who may think how am I possibly against bullying, I don't remember being a bully but if you ever felt like I, or anyone I associated with, was to you.. Then I am truly sorry.  But, I would also like to mention, that many of you that may have felt like that, look back because you probably haven't been too perfect yourself.

Quote of the Day: Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. ♥

Life is Precious

So today is the memorial mass for one of my good friend's dads birthday.  Unfortunately I was not able to make it, but she and her family know my deepest condolences go to each of them.  He passed away suddenly about a month ago at only the age of 50.  This really made me open my eyes and realize life is so precious.  At any given time ANYONE can have an accident or have a heart attack or anything and you could have never seen it coming.  So what am I am trying to tell you is, live your life to the fullest, love your parents, love your kids and realize at any time, they can be taken away from you.
I wish more people could realize this. I can't explain how many times I have heard someone say, "Ugh, my dad is so annoying I wish he would just get out of my life already," or "I hate my mom, she is so mean."  Well, I can tell you one thing, no matter how "annoying" or how "mean" they may be... my friend would love to be in your shoes to just be able to see her dad and hug him one last time. It makes me so angry when I hear people talk about their parents so badly and I just bite my tongue, because life is so unfair that they can lose that parent so suddenly, but they just think it will never happen to them.
So please. Take advantage of the fact that you have your parents, both of them if you do because there is someone out there that wishes they had that.

RIP Ricky Rudick. You are missed and loved by so many people... and Happy Birthday.
This post is dedicated to the whole Rudick family because they have been so strong in the struggle of Ricky's loss. Sami, I love you, girl!!

Quote of the Day: Life's not always fair.  Sometimes you can get a splinter even sliding down a rainbow.  ~Terri Guillemets

First post :)

Hi everyone!
Today marks the first time I have posted on a blog... EVER.  After speaking to a woman today, I thought maybe I should start something.  For a little background, I am 19 and am in college as an English major and hopefully I am going to be an Elementary teacher, and I am a so-called "Social Worker" as people call me.  I absolutely love helping people.  Personally, because of the experiences I have gone through, I believe I am pretty good at giving advice. I also love singing and taking pictures!  People who know me know I always have my camera with me to capture any moment that might need remembrance. I will also be having an inspirational quote of the day or a song of the day after each of my posts.
Well, that is it for now! Check back in tomorrow to see what I may have in store :]


Song of the Day:  Who Says by Selena Gomez